May 8, 2000 4:18 PM
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So at some point last week, I was watching Nightline for some unknown reason (ok, it was cause I had just made some popcorn, and I like watching TV while eating popcorn, and there was just nothing else on) and saw this story that came across as the most irresponsible piece of journalism I've seen since Fox shut down the Buzz Club (yeah, yeah, I know...."Nightline? Irresponsible? Duh!"). It was some story about a woman who had given up her baby to adoption because she was in college and the father was an irresponsible boob at that age. Ok, fine so far, giving up a kid for adoption has to be a tough choice, good, I can handle that. The story then followed the mother for through her next 18 years, how she agonized every damn day about the child she "had" to give up, and how her life never could be complete again, etc etc etc. Feh. So anyway, when the mother knew her child was 18, she tracked her down through a private detective and sent her a letter. Reply comes back from the daughter to leave her alone. So what does mom do? Finally let the whole thing drop? Noooo...she goes ahead and calls two years later. She finally manages to bully the kid into meeting her. Everything goes fairy tale, they love each other, mom helps kid track down her father, mom and dad have a heart to heart, get back together and end up getting married. Yeah, puke from the sap now. Sorry, romance in one's life is one thing, but let's face some facts. First off, mom came across as, frankly, living in some fantasy world the entire show. She said that she knew dad was "the love of her life" the first time she met him and has never met anyone she loved so much since....she was 18, knew him for six months, and he screwed her. Oh yeah, that's a love of one's life right there, what a gem! Then there was this 20 year obsession with this child she saw once. Ok, again, I realize that giving up a kid has to be tough...real tough. But fer chrissakes, get some therapy, get some prozac, get a damn chihuahua, but fer chrissakes, get over it. Don't obsess for 18 years straight and then threaten to completely overturn the life of this child you supposedly "love" so much to sooth your own poor aching heart. Christ, talk about selfish. Sheez, so you made an error in your life, poor you. So what made me think about this? Salon had an article about exactly what happens when it doesn't work out to a fairy-tale ending. Unfortunately, I'm sure more moms probably saw the Nightline story, and how many more have they encouraged to go out and try to improve their lives through a kid who never knew them and probably would rather not.
I'm sure I'd hear plenty of comments (if I bothered asking for comments) about how I could never know what its like to give up a child yadda ya, to which I'd have to say "feh".
Today's Horoscope: Friendships you make through organizations will be lasting and fruitful. You can get your point across easily and drum up support at the same time. Communications will be your strong point.
I don't think that point was easy to get across...well, unless the underlying point was "Nightline sucks ass"
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